Anyone who is in an intimate relationship has undoubtedly explored together the question of what love is. We have developed something we call the Five Elements of Love. Presence. Kindness. Compassion. Joy. Freedom. We found it easily accessible and everyone we work with enjoys the clarity it brings.
Having support enables us to more easily handle the challenges of life and love and so, more likely to thrive, rather than simply survive. More and more people are moving to urban areas and this is changing the face of our communities and requires us to redesign how we approach our support systems.
Do you ever yearn for a nostalgic past - a time you could go for a romantic date without arranging child care or when you make love without listening for footsteps outside your bedroom? Was life really better before the kids? Is nostalgia keeping you stuck? Nostalgia is both seductive and selective.
Coming out of a relationship and work crisis, we decided to take control of the direction of our life. We realised we were riding life's waves without any idea where we wanted those waves to take us or which wave to catch. We mostly enjoyed the journey, but our life was not where we it wanted to be.
If I'm not taking care of myself then I cannot take care of others in the way I would like. Self-care means doing what is in my power to ensure I'm at my best as often as possible. It is about recognising, valuing and considering other people in my life while I carve out time that is only about me.
I guess there's a point in most relationships we stop discovering new things about eachother. Maybe other things, such as kids, take over or maybe interest wanes as we get used to being together. The good news is it’s never too late to rekindle it, all it takes is a little curiosity and willingness.
We started watching 'Tidying Up with Marie Kondo' on Netflix and were instantly hooked. Straight away I appreciated the lightness and inner spaciousness brought by starting a few simple first steps. It struck me how the process of physical decluttering had a transformative side-effect on the couples. 
We recognised the need to approach this period of coronavirus consciously and to take steps to ensure we were taking care of our relationship.We decided to establish routines and practices to organise time and space. I would like to share what we established and maybe you find something useful here.
One of the seductive qualities about falling in love is the story is still there to be written, the journey is yet to be travelled. You have no past together, only have a potential future. You can be anyone, do anything and you are perfect in your lover’s eyes and as such become perfect in your own.
One set of choices is looking for improvements in my partner to bring us closer to couple nirvana. Some may be character faults where I set myself as judge and educator to mould her into a vision I have of perfection. Or small things where she doesn’t adhere to my standards or ways of doing things.
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The Connection Kit is a practical and fun way to bring you closer as a couple. Currently available in English, German and Romanian.