We recognised the need to approach this period of coronavirus consciously and to take steps to ensure we were taking care of our relationship.We decided to establish routines and practices to organise time and space. I would like to share what we established and maybe you find something useful here.
One of the seductive qualities about falling in love is the story is still there to be written, the journey is yet to be travelled. You have no past together, only have a potential future. You can be anyone, do anything and you are perfect in your lover’s eyes and as such become perfect in your own.
One set of choices is looking for improvements in my partner to bring us closer to couple nirvana. Some may be character faults where I set myself as judge and educator to mould her into a vision I have of perfection. Or small things where she doesn’t adhere to my standards or ways of doing things.
A reasonable assumption is the time you want to spend together is a reflection on how important your intimate relationship is compared to the other things in your life demanding your time. If you are upset that your partner wants to spend less time together than you do, it is probably time to talk.
This week something a little different. Recently I made a Zoom interview with Alex Moldovan, entrepreneur, friend and an NVC trainer from Cluj-Napoca in North West Romania. I've know Alex a couple of years and always enjoyed how he relates to his wife and daughter. So I was curious to find out more.
'No' can be one of the hardest words to say and to hear in an intimate relationship and I often hesitate because I'm worried about damaging our connection especially when it comes from a less-than-loving energy. Yet when used consciously 'No' can be one of the most important words in a relationship.
I wonder if most couples can trace their relationship back to a fleeting second of eye contact, when you saw the other with all barriers dropped. There is no hiding when someone looks deeply into your soul through the window of the eyes and transports us to a place where we can connect beyond words.
Being a couple means bringing together two people who are on their own life’s journey and who may be pointing at different places on the compass. This can be a huge challenge that can even drive you apart as a couple unless you have consciously approached this topic. And having kids adds complexity.
Quality time together as a couple is vital for the health of your relationship. If you are like other parent-couples, you have also certainly experienced the rarity of 'alone time' - time when the kids are away - and its value when you have it. How to spend the time you already have in a better way?
With the arrival of children, even the best relationships will experience strain. The Four Pillars are the foundations on which a relationship stands and they need to be consistently taken care of or the relationship risks falling over. The Four Pillars are time, direction, desire and communication.
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