All relationships need positive energy to thrive. This energy can come from a variety of places and one that is always available is that provided by gratitude and appreciation. In our couple relationship we focused on this for the last couple of years and it has made a huge difference on many levels.
Big decisions affect many parts of our lives and usually require us to use a good part of our finances. And they are hard and costly to correct if we get them wrong - we really want to make sure the decision is a good one. This means investing time and energy in exploring the decision and making it.
Vulnerability is often confused with weakness. To be vulnerable is to open myself and reveal my inner world – my tenderness, my weaknesses, fears, mistakes, hopes, secrets and dreams. It is this revealing that is being vulnerable. Showing my vulnerability shows my humanity and willingness to be seen.
One of the core skills vital to a successful relationship is that of listening. This is the case with our intimate partner, our children and anyone else we are in connection with. I also think most of us are not very good at it. The good news is that this is a skill that anyone can learn and deepen.
In the important relationships in my life I don’t want to be only good enough. I want to be the best I can be. I refuse to settle for mediocracy in my marriage or in my parenting. At the same time, I don’t want to strive to be perfect. I aim to be in the space in between ‘good enough’ and ‘perfect’.
This is the second in a series of interviews of people I really admire to get some insights into how to balance relationships and parenting. This week an interview with a dear friend and colleague, Robert Kržišnik, author and NVC trainer from Slovenia who currently lives in an eco-village in Israel.
One area that couples can struggle with is agreeing how to raise the kids. It is probably the biggest ‘project’ you will undertake as a couple and it makes for a much smoother life for you and for your children when you agree on the fundamentals. Here is a 7 step approach to your Parenting Manifesto.
Most of our articles are focused on the couple relationship of parents. I don't want to overlook children in our lives and an area I will explore further is about how to bring your parenting approaches to alignment. To get in the mood I want to share a famous poem from 'The Prophet' by Kahlil Gibran.
Communication is essential for a healthy and thriving relationship - both quantity and the quality. Finding time to talk and listen is one thing, but if you miss some important skills of expressing yourself and listening, then you can sometimes cause more harm than good.
Anyone who is in an intimate relationship has undoubtedly explored together the question of what love is. We have developed something we call the Five Elements of Love. Presence. Kindness. Compassion. Joy. Freedom. We found it easily accessible and everyone we work with enjoys the clarity it brings.