This week something a little different. Recently I made a Zoom interview with Alex Moldovan, entrepreneur, friend and an NVC trainer from Cluj-Napoca in North West Romania. I've known Alex a couple of years and always enjoyed how he relates to his wife and daughter. So I was curious to find out more.
'No' can be one of the hardest words to say and to hear in an intimate relationship and I often hesitate because I'm worried about damaging our connection especially when it comes from a less-than-loving energy. Yet when used consciously 'No' can be one of the most important words in a relationship.
I wonder if most couples can trace their relationship back to a fleeting second of eye contact, when you saw the other with all barriers dropped. There is no hiding when someone looks deeply into your soul through the window of the eyes and transports us to a place where we can connect beyond words.
Being a couple means bringing together two people who are on their own life’s journey and who may be pointing at different places on the compass. This can be a huge challenge that can even drive you apart as a couple unless you have consciously approached this topic. And having kids adds complexity.
Quality time together as a couple is vital for the health of your relationship. If you are like other parent-couples, you have also certainly experienced the rarity of 'alone time' - time when the kids are away - and its value when you have it. How to spend the time you already have in a better way?
With the arrival of children, even the best relationships will experience strain. The Four Pillars are the foundations on which a relationship stands and they need to be consistently taken care of or the relationship risks falling over. The Four Pillars are time, direction, desire and communication.