Vulnerability is often confused with weakness. To be vulnerable is to open myself and reveal my inner world – my tenderness, my weaknesses, fears, mistakes, hopes, secrets and dreams. It is this revealing that is being vulnerable. Showing my vulnerability shows my humanity and willingness to be seen.
One of the core skills vital to a successful relationship is that of listening. This is the case with our intimate partner, our children and anyone else we are in connection with. I also think most of us are not very good at it. The good news is that this is a skill that anyone can learn and deepen.
Communication is essential for a healthy and thriving relationship - both quantity and the quality. Finding time to talk and listen is one thing, but if you miss some important skills of expressing yourself and listening, then you can sometimes cause more harm than good.
'No' can be one of the hardest words to say and to hear in an intimate relationship and I often hesitate because I'm worried about damaging our connection especially when it comes from a less-than-loving energy. Yet when used consciously 'No' can be one of the most important words in a relationship.