Date night is standard advice for parents looking to reconnect as a couple. Every week you find someone to take care of the kids and then spend a wonderful evening and night together. After a few hours you feel like young lovers again and all the stress and strain of life will be gone. Yeah, right!
The last year of pandemic has represented a particular challenge for many of us to get couple time. Kids have been at home far more than usual and the normal support networks (such as school, after school activities, grandparents and playdates etc.) have been strained so they are not operating well.
Within all the turmoil of this year of pandemic, children need something to hold onto – as do us adults. Christmas is one thing that is familiar and a source of happiness. For most of us it has shed its religious meaning and instead become a time of and for the children. A celebration of childhood.
We recognised the need to approach this period of coronavirus consciously and to take steps to ensure we were taking care of our relationship.We decided to establish routines and practices to organise time and space. I would like to share what we established and maybe you find something useful here.
One of the seductive qualities about falling in love is the story is still there to be written, the journey is yet to be travelled. You have no past together, only have a potential future. You can be anyone, do anything and you are perfect in your lover’s eyes and as such become perfect in your own.
A reasonable assumption is the time you want to spend together is a reflection on how important your intimate relationship is compared to the other things in your life demanding your time. If you are upset that your partner wants to spend less time together than you do, it is probably time to talk.
Quality time together as a couple is vital for the health of your relationship. If you are like other parent-couples, you have also certainly experienced the rarity of 'alone time' - time when the kids are away - and its value when you have it. How to spend the time you already have in a better way?